September 20, 2006

Beyond measure?

It has been discussed and philosophized over by most romantics, poets and what nots. Can love be measured? And if so, by what means?

It would be cool if we could use a measuring stick or a scale in order to know how much love we or someone else felt. "I love you 156 pounds." But what would be the purpose of such a measuring device? What would we do if we found out that we loved our partner more than he or she loved us? Do we have to love the other in equal amounts?

Me personally, I wouldn't see much use of such measuring devices or what do you say?

For me one quote sums up the more important aspect of defining love, be it between family members, friends, lovers or even pets;

Love is as love does

At the end of the day, it is that general feeling of what that love makes you feel like, and what it delivers in actions. This means there can be many types of love, but we decide what we can or want to live with.

A woman with an abusive husband who claims he loves her and finds herself believing in what he says can ask herself, "what does his love do to me?" Maybe she will change her mind.


nzm said...

Love is never at the end of a closed fist, or within hurtful words.

Shaykhspeara Sha'ira said...

Now ain't that the truth... good to see you nzm, how are you holding up? What are the plans? Any return soon? Take care.

Destitute Rebel said...

Good to see you posting after some time. Love certainly is a complex emotion, I dont think it can be measured and even if it could be what good would it do.

A vision, a whisper,or arrows without form ?
Striking the helpless as unfathomable storm!
Ignoring all marks of religion class or race,
Cupid causing havoc in every clime and space!
Lighting the brightest smiles or giving endless pain,
Love seeks selfless surrender ‘tis so very plain!

Shaykhspeara Sha'ira said...

Oh lovely poetry D Reb! Yours I presume?

farrukh: copywriter & journalist said...

Your post reminded me of something I read a long time back:

"I love you not for just who you are, but for who I AM when I am with you."

Good to read more from you.

Who Wrote That?

EXSENO said...

I think a man that is abusive does not love, no matter how many times he says the words virbally.

The word love doesn't even have to be said out loud, although it is nice to hear. Love is shown by actions. Caring, sharing, tenderness, kindness and concideration. It's a look, a word, a touch.
Love is that feeling you get deep within when you look at that special person. Love is unexplainable, it transcends all words.

Shaykhspeara Sha'ira said...

Farrukh, good to see you. It's been a long time. It is so true. You know you are with the right person when they bring out the best in you and you in them. Another measuring stick.

Exseno, beautifully said :) it truly transcends all worlds just like you said.

EXSENO said...

I've been around, I peek in on you from time to time.

I have really enjoyed your music choices.

BuJ said...

Love cannot and should not be measured a bit like the mathematical concept of infinity.
Love should be either there or not, without any gray areas, but life rarely gives us such luxuries.
Tears are often attributed to love, instead tears are the result of misunderstood love.
Love should bring only smiles and positivity.

Shaykhspeara Sha'ira said...

Exseno I am glad. What do you think about teh latest addition to the music player? I love the rhythm of it.

Buj, long time no see! I see what you're saying, indeed love should build you not destroy you. And if it destroys you, it is not always a matter of misunderstood love. It can simply be a love from a person who just isn't right for you.

Sometimes we have the illusion that as long as there is love everything can work out fine. Many people who love each other don't make it in the world because they take each other for granted.

I love what you wrote about love being like infinity in terms of mathematical calculations not being applied.